Loving the Hard to Love

Some people are hard to love. Maybe they are immature, or selfish, or mean. Because it is difficult, this kind of love must be a choice. Loving these people takes different skills and requires different steps. 

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Love at First Sight

Most times when we meet people we don’t feel safe because we are in unknown territory—we just don’t know that person yet. Instead of loving them we fear them, consciously or unconsciously. We might respond in all sorts of ways. We might be super friendly, or shy, or funny, or cautious, but still not be…

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Your Brain on Trauma

A few months ago, a pickup truck turned in front of a motor scooter just 50 feet ahead of me on my own bike. The rider braked but slammed into the truck at maybe 5 to 10 miles an hour. He appeared a bit dazed but stayed on his feet, bystanders quickly coming to help. Afterwards…

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