Don't give up

Yesterday I spoke by phone with "Bo", one of our Thai daughters who has been in a Christian addiction rehab center in Chiang Mai for over a month.  I mentioned her in this post .   To say that Bo has given us headaches over the last couple of years would be putting it mildly--migraines would be more like it.  She came to us over 2 years ago with a history of prostitution, violence and addiction.  Bo has a personality that from the beginning was very charming, but she could also be quite good at lying and covering things up.  You also didn't want to make her angry.  Although in her mid 20's, she could behave like a young teen.  Judy and I would sometimes call her our street kid, our wild child.

With all her acting out, keeping Bo around has been a challenge.  Tougher cases like hers take more time.  You always feel like you're short-changing the "good kids" because of the few bad ones that take so much time.  It's safe to say that in many programs such as ours she would have been gone long ago--she broke rules so many times.  But in spite of it all, we felt that God has had a special call for her, that amidst all her wildness was a heart that wanted to be pure, that longed after something better. She once told me, in tears, that her dream for a long time was to someday have a home for orphans and/or handicapped children.  We knew we could not fix her, but saw our job as keeping her as safe as possible to allow time for God to heal her and make her grow.  

Bo laughed and wept on the phone when she heard my voice.  "I miss you so much, Dad.  I'm doing so well.  I love God sooooo much."  She talked about learning to fast and pray, about leading worship for gatherings at the center--something that our co-worker Khio once reported seeing in a dream.  "I understand you now, Dad," she exclaimed  "All the things that you told me over and over, I really get them now, and I'm talking about them here with others."  Of course I laughed and wept too.  

I'm not going to say that the story is over, that Bo will never relapse again or give us another migraine.  But we haven't chosen to love Bo because she's perfect, but because God made her worth loving.  If Jesus could die for her, certainly we can put up with some headaches.  If God doesn't give up on her, neither will we.

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Anna
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Re: Don't give up
Reply #5 on : Thu July 19, 2007, 17:08:05
you are the coolest dad. ever.
Bill Graver
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RE: Kingdom of God
Reply #4 on : Wed July 18, 2007, 22:23:10
Yeah, Jim talked a lot about that book while I was there so I had to read it when I got back home. Holy cow! What a good book!

The thing that's really cool for me is that I got to view "power under" firsthand while we were in a village in Khon Kaen. Jim talks about it in this post: http://servantworks.com/166

It really amazed me how powerful it was to just humble ourselves and serve.
Nicholas Tomsen
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Kingdom of God
Reply #3 on : Wed July 18, 2007, 20:33:47
Jim-
I received the book, "The Myth of a Christian Nation" from a friend a while ago and just finished it. I also remembered that you had mentioned it in one of your posts. I could not help but think that this story is a perfect example of the the way that the Kingdom of God and its people are to undertake Christ-like activities, through the more arduous method of "power under."

Thanks for your steadfast love for these girls, though hard to do, undoubtedly. I understand more and more, though, that this type of love from God's saints to others is the only type that will cause internal change. Laws and rules quickly force external change, but usually evoke a knee-jerk in the opposite direction response from the soul. It is no wonder for me that "dying" to ourselves and others is the method prescribed by the Kingdom and its Leader that causes true change. Too, even if it does not, it still gives the most glory to God.

Thank you for clear pictures for me to tell others about here that demonstrate this type of dying love. My biggest prayer for Michaela while she is there is to learn this from working with all of you for the Lord.

I thought it was pretty groovy too that you think your wife is the "bomb diggity."

Cheers,

Nick
scott hodge
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Re: Don't give up
Reply #2 on : Wed July 18, 2007, 18:58:24
great post jim. encouraging to all of us, no doubt...
Bill Graver
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RE: Bo
Reply #1 on : Wed July 18, 2007, 18:31:12
That is so awesome!

My men's group has been praying for Bo and the other girl who's been having a hard time so it's great to hear something like this.

I remember, while we were driving around talking one day, you mentioned that your job was to just love the girls and provide a safe place for them to experience Jesus. Good call!

When does she get to come back to The Well?