Thank the Lord, so far Behn's plan to go to Japan did not work out.  She came by to visit today.  We pointed out in a lighthearted way that so far 2 doors have been closed and perhaps God was moving her towards The Well.  She's definitely too trapped for now by dysfunctional parents who demand money from her, at least if she's telling the truth.  That's hard to know at this point. Meanwhile Behn is freelancing around Sukhumvit Road.

I talked with one of our women about a drinking binge she had Monday night.  She was expecting to get the book thrown at her, but instead I just said ok.  We'll give her some loving 'consequences', like some extra reading, but mostly we find that just our knowing about a problem such as this is consequence enough.

In my past in working with people with addictions I used to focus a lot more on addictive behavior.  Here in Thailand we realized long ago that we needed to de-emphasize it because the shame people felt was too great. Instead we focus on understanding and loving them through it.  I like this approach much better.

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Jim Larson
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Reply #2 on : Mon April 09, 2007, 00:51:29
Grin. I was never a sergeant, so perhaps didn't learn that skill so well. Indeed, there are certainly times where an extra bit of persuasion is called for!
Roy Bessell
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Reply #1 on : Fri April 06, 2007, 19:27:02
Interesting! I have found that knowing that I know is often consequence enough. Only occasionally does God move me to use the "lecturing skills" I learned as a sergeant.

Roy